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  • I Am Mom Enough and So Are You

    By now, many of you have seen this cover of the May Edition of Time Magazine. This article is about a popular parenting philosophy known as attachment parenting and it’s founder, 72 year old Dr. William Sears.

    Instead of featuring Dr. Sears on the cover, Time Magazine instead chose to feature 26 year old mommy blogger and attachment parenting supporter, Jamie Lynn Grumet. Time Magazine has a job to attract readers to their magazines and how better to do that than to anger moms with a polarizing topic. My twitter feed almost blew up yesterday with rants about how long is too long to breast feed, whether attachment parenting oppresses women, and even everyone’s two cents as to what makes a good mother. Oy.

     

     

    The picture didn’t appall me like it did to others. The title of the article however made me sick to my stomach. The media has caught on to the fact that they can get attention by getting women to argue with one another. It has been dubbed The Mommy Wars.

    As moms we are trying our best to navigate this journey towards raising healthy, well adjusted children. And there are MANY paths that can lead to the same destination.

    Are you Mom Enough? Yes you are. And so am I.

    I am Mom Enough at night when my toddler has a bad dream and needs to snuggle in close to me.

    I am Mom Enough even though I’ve worked outside the home as a nurse while raising four children.
     

     
    I am Mom Enough to know that I need a date with my husband every week.

    I am Mom Enough to know that my children are not perfect but more than enough.

    I am Mom Enough to know that my children need to learn how to work through failures in the safety of our home.

    I am Mom Enough to know when “No” is necessary.

    I am Mom Enough to put my cell phone down when my children desire my company.

    I am Mom Enough to know that I can’t do it all.

    I am Mom Enough to my 2 year old even though I don’t have breasts anymore.
     

     
    I am Mom Enough to know that I am not perfect but that I give it my best.

    I am Mom Enough to know that I am immeasurably blessed.

    Let’s build one another up and stop this alarming trend of shaming one another. Maybe then TIME magazine won’t use us to sell their magazines.

    Instead, in the spirit of Mother’s Day weekend…consider picking up the phone and telling your friend who is struggling that she is enough.

    Consider writing a letter and leaving a care package to your friend who is a single mom trying her best to raise children on her own.

    Consider humbling yourself to someone you have judged for her parenting choices and apologize.

    Consider looking at yourself in the mirror and saying, “I am more than Mom Enough.”

    Blessings sweet friends – Jenny

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    30 Comments

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    Stacy

    Beautifully written, Jenny! Thank you for putting it correctly! I hope you have a wonderful Mother’s Day!

    11 May 2012 at 8:39 am Reply
    Karen

    So, I truly find this wrong on many levels. When I signed up to be a mom, I signed up to teach right and wrong for a very long time. As the mom of a young woman, trying to teach that females disagree different then males and to understand that has been one of my biggest adventures. Now, I see that others are promoting this disagreeing (new word?). So, maybe a purpose for disagreements is to see other points of views? Surely, there is a better way than fighting!

    11 May 2012 at 8:41 am Reply
    Michelle

    Great post, Jenny! I too was put off by the headline more than the photo. As a working mother, I have struggled with not feeling like I am doing enough for my two-year old daughter. But this Mother’s Day, I need to remind myself that I AM enough! Thank you for this great reminder this morning!

    11 May 2012 at 9:01 am Reply
    amy

    Way to go Jenny! I am mom enough! Happy Mother’s Day!

    11 May 2012 at 9:15 am Reply
    KatieK.

    Well my take on the magazine cover was not really about the article or us as moms and however we choose to fulfill the job of moms. All of us moms (& most folks) truly know its hard work and we all approach things a little differently. The cover ruins whatever the article could have brought into a healthy discussion that’s for sure.
    Leaving the cover aside, the mom wars has been waging a long time. We all could probably write long comments and posts about our experiences. Now, I get to wonder if I’m mom enough since I don’t have a blog. A friend of mine comes to me stressed out re: being a new mom wondering if she is doing enough, doing the ‘right’ thing, etc. I give the best advice I have that gotten me through my first 20 years of parenting. “If your child was growing up in ‘X’ country, would your child know that he was supposed to be eating or doing ‘fill-in-blank concern’ like the babies/kids here?” Of course not. Another way we need to relax and respect other moms is similar to how we should treat the dads when they are diapering the kid. It’s different then maybe you would put it on, but if the kid gets clean and dry and no one gets hurt, what’s the big deal?
    Thanks Jenny for reminding us that although we may come in different packages and sizes outside, mothering/parenting is more about the heart inside.

    11 May 2012 at 9:19 am Reply
      Jenny
      Jenny

      You are more than enough without a blog. Katie – I have actually struggled wondering if the time I spend blogging could be spent my children. So it works both ways. The grass always seem greener on the other side, right?
      And that is what I love about my readers here – I have a small, yet very diverse readership. I’m a better person and learn so much more because of that. Thank you.

      11 May 2012 at 9:27 am Reply
    Gayletrini

    Perfectly said.

    11 May 2012 at 9:25 am Reply
    Betsy

    Thanks, Jenny. Great post. I would also say dad’s are enough as well.

    11 May 2012 at 9:30 am Reply
      Jenny
      Jenny

      More than enough. I blessed to have Jeff who is probably better than me. :)

      11 May 2012 at 9:32 am Reply
        Jeff Meyerson

        I am going to print this out and tape it to our bathroom mirror.

        11 May 2012 at 9:41 am Reply
    Nichole

    Love love love your post, Jenny! Thank you for putting it so well. Happy Mother’s Day!

    11 May 2012 at 10:05 am Reply
    Rebecca

    Well said, Jenny, as always. You add a perspective that is elequent and refreshing. Always fun to read your posts!! Love,
    Your Cousin, Rebecca

    11 May 2012 at 10:23 am Reply
    Nikki

    Thanks, Jenny, for posting that. I too was bothered by the article’s title. I’ve struggled with being “mom enough” for the past 3 years with my son….I think the Internet is a blessing and a curse for exposing me to fabulous child-raising tips (yea!) but also making me feel less than I am because I didn’t make my own baby food, use cloth diapers, or throw killer birthday parties (boo!). I may have to save your post for those moments when it feels like I’m the lousiest mother on the playground. Thanks for the reminder that I’m actually a pretty good mom :)

    11 May 2012 at 1:48 pm Reply
      Jenny
      Jenny

      Yes Nikki, I often print off posts that I’ve read that speak to me or remind me that I am enough. And you are. No pinterest like, perfect birthday party is going to make you a better mom. It will make for pretty pictures, but that’s about all is adds to its value.
      And just the fact that you care about the above issues, lets me know that you are a good mom. You care… that is the message I hear loud and clear. Job well done.

      11 May 2012 at 2:01 pm Reply
    Theresa

    Well said Jenny! I love your blogs have a wonderful Mother’s Day

    11 May 2012 at 2:28 pm Reply
    Susan

    Refreshing well stated perspective. Thank you.

    11 May 2012 at 6:06 pm Reply
    Kathy

    Thank you Jenny…as a mom of three ages 40,@37and34..I still find myself examining all the things I felt I could have handled better, done differently, I guess I still need to work on feeling that I was “enough”

    11 May 2012 at 9:10 pm Reply
      Jenny
      Jenny

      I am certain that you were enough. And I am trying very hard to break that tape recorder message in my head that says I could have done more or better. It serves no purpose than to shame myself.
      Enough shame, more support.- I think I’ve found a new motto for myself.
      Thanks Kathy and have a wonderful Mother’s Day!

      12 May 2012 at 3:37 pm Reply
    Sharonne

    Happy Mother’s Day Jenny!!

    11 May 2012 at 10:50 pm Reply
    Sharon from Mama’s Turn Now

    Love this! Thank you! I may not be perfect but yes… I am mom enough! Thank you for reminding me of this. I shared on my facebook page!

    12 May 2012 at 3:26 pm Reply
      Jenny
      Jenny

      Thank you Sharon for sharing this message. I recall seeing your infamous post the other day as well. :) My nieces are on the spectrum and my sister writes a blog http://www.iamjuju.com so I feel sort of adopted by the autism community.
      Thank you for the support and for being more than enough for your children.

      12 May 2012 at 3:40 pm Reply
        Sharon from Mama’s Turn Now

        Well then Welcome to the Village Jenny! LOL I am going to go check out your sister’s blog now!

        12 May 2012 at 4:17 pm Reply
    Jim Adang

    Atta Girl!

    12 May 2012 at 3:45 pm Reply
    gail

    Bravo! Visiting via Jess at DOAM.

    12 May 2012 at 3:47 pm Reply
    Kimber

    I am thankful for women like you-thank you for encouraging rather than criticizing. It is heart warming.

    12 May 2012 at 5:41 pm Reply
      Jenny
      Jenny

      I’m dreaming of this community growing and being known for support and encouragement, and sparing others from feeling shame. There are plenty of venues that promote criticism and shame. Thank you Kimber.

      14 May 2012 at 6:42 am Reply
    Scot McConnell

    I am Mom enough to have been a single Dad for the entire time my boy was growing up and I got him at 20 months old and he is now 26.

    13 May 2012 at 10:56 am Reply
      Jenny
      Jenny

      Scot – I was a single parent for a short time. And I completely agree with you. So grateful for men (and women) who choose to do the right thing and raise healthy children. So I believe all single parents get to celebrate both Mother’s Day and Father’s Day. You are more than Mom enough.

      14 May 2012 at 6:38 am Reply
    Alex Doll

    Reminds me of this article.

    ” I think I have done a pretty good job of balancing my children’s need and wants with what I can reasonably provide while still remaining sane. It is time that I accept that I am doing what works for my children, and that it is the best I can do. ”

    http://www.kcparent.com/May-2009/Confessions-of-the-Not-So-Perfect-Mom/

    15 May 2012 at 7:43 am Reply
    Help4NewMoms

    Very, Very good! It is so frustrating that the media pushes our generation of moms to be perfect – by their definition of perfect. I applaud your call to take our power back on this. if we stick together we can turn things around, refocus the conversation. BTW, it ALWAYS cracks me up when a MALE doctor tell a woman she should attachment parent – “Have you ever breastfed or attachment parented, buddy!” The Nerve. Passing your post and info across all my social media and subscribing to your feed! All the best.

    15 May 2012 at 10:20 am Reply

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