This is Jeff, or Jenny’s husband as I am likely known around here. It has been quite some time since I wrote My Side of the Story so I asked Jenny if I could write another guest post. If you couldn’t figure it out, she said yes. I am excited about this post because it is an opportunity for me to share five basic tenets (some funny, some serious) that I wish women would live by:
1. Encourage other women. This doesn’t happen nearly as often as it should. In fact, women often are the ones holding other women back. Why would you do that? You have enough obstacles with lingering stereotypes to have to overcome criticism and jealousy from other women. Successes by women open more doors for you. Celebrate successes and encourage and support each other.
2. Your husband is a horrible diet accountability partner. This is a no-win situation for husbands. If you want to biggie size your combo with a Dr. Pepper in a weak moment, we can either step in, say no and accept your wrath then, or we can let you eat it and accept your wrath later. No. Win. Situation. See the picture above? We love that picture. It was before we let each other biggie size our combos.
3. Have your own identity. Your identity is not wrapped up in your spouse, your kids, or your job. The C+ that Billy got on his Math test does not mean that you are a bad mother. It means Billy doesn’t understand fractions. It is time to rediscover YOUR hopes and dreams and to live life to the fullest. Your entire family will benefit from you living life intentionally. I’m thrilled that Jenny started this blog because it is about finding her identity and encouraging others to do the same.
4. Your mood and attitude affects your entire household. This is the unfair reality that women face. Your mood, more than anybody else’s, determines the atmosphere in your home. Happy, sad, angry…I can guarantee you that your spouse and kids change their behavior based on your mood. I am not saying that you are not allowed to feel these emotions; rather, just be conscious of when your emotions are getting to the point where they are negatively impacting relationships.
5. You are not the only woman that __________________. I left the last “word” blank because we can fill it with ANYTHING! You know how this goes. It starts with you being too hard on yourself for something and then proceeds to an unreasonable comparison with some model wife/mom/friend that doesn’t exist. So say it with me…”you are not the only woman with a house that is a disaster area”…”you are not the only woman that is running late for your kid’s recital”…”you are not the only woman that is wearing exercise clothes and a hat because you didn’t have time to shower this morning.” Strength in numbers! Don’t we feel better now?
Agree? Disagree? My future guest posts ride on your response so let me hear your comments.
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