When I first started blogging I read an article that said 90% of blogs shut down within the first year of getting started. Not to worry, I am not planning on shutting my blog down, but I do feel like it is time to examine the direction it is going.
photo credited to http://www.martin-liebermann.de
If you follow my blog on a regular basis, you have undoubtedly noticed that I have been taking a little break. It doesn’t mean that I have not thought about my blog. Quite the contrary, I have probably thought about my blog and the direction it is headed more in the last couple of weeks than I have since I started.
During this break, Jeff and I have had an amazing couple of weeks of renewed faith and our marriage has been incredibly blessed by that. I have been praying about my purpose as a wife, as a mother, as a friend, as a nurse, as a Christian, and as a blogger. I have learned that I don’t want to simply cross items off my life list or make a cupcake or craft. This sounds so cliche, but I want to truly make a difference in everything that I pour my energy in to. And anyone who blogs knows the tremendous amount of energy it takes to keep it going on a daily basis.
As I explained this to Jeff, he just smiled. He explained that he fell in love with me 13 years ago because he had never seen someone more passionate about making a difference in people’s lives. He pointed to my blog and you as my readers as proof.
I ask this humbly, not wanting you to simply shower me with compliments: WHY? What is it about this blog that keeps you coming back? Because whatever it is that is making a difference for you, I want to do THAT. I want to give you what you come here for. Is it the crafting? Is it the life list? Is it the cupcakes? I want to know what you like about my blog, what you don’t like about my blog, and any other constructive criticism you may have. If you are more comfortable sending me an email, please feel free to do so. No matter what, I want you to know how thankful I am that you are along for this ride. I truly appreciate all of you.
Blessings sweet friends
–Jenny












Comments
Lee Currie
Your perspective, authenticity and genuine curiosity about people and life keeps me coming back. You’ve been missed!
sarabeth
everything that you share here has truly inspired me. it makes me think and reflect on my life. i come back, time and time again, because you have so much appreciation of everything in your life, i want that too. i am thankful for an amazing blog like this that i get to come back to.
i understand the need to step back and rethink the blog-i have done this myself but now taking frequent breaks and simply stopping to smell the flowers, rethinking things to do what i love and what makes me happy is just how it works.
thanks for being so awesome
Carla I.
Love your perspective & sincerity. The life list is what drew me to start following your blog (& keep reading). As a fellow cancer survivor, your journey through your life list was/is an inspiration to me to make the most of MY life and MY every day. I’m a fellow crafter also – so that aspect of your blog interests me too – but I guess is just a ‘bonus’ to the rest of your content. Have missed your posts in recent weeks! Hope you’re back soon
kate
I came here on a whim, reading about your list, creating it after cancer, and I identified with it, and you.
I find all your posts interesting, no matter what the topic. I enjoy the PL posts, and really, just your voice. I think even if you only post when and what you feel like, your readers will respond. Your point of you, your appreciation for things comes through. That is what makes a difference for me.
Becky
While I love the cupcakes, crafts, stories of everyday life, even (and maybe especially) the life list, I’m hooked because of your passion and desire to make a difference. That shows up in selling cupcakes to support someone, and in being a listening ear in your job. You bring perspective of craving the most out of life and THAT is why I come back. To me it doesn’t matter what form that shows up in – crafts, cupcakes, swim meets, joys, sorrows. But to read someone who is fulfilled by everyday life – THAT is a blessing.
Crystal
You are incredibly inspiring!! I enjoy reading your perspective – it reminds me to be thankful. I enjoy your list and the fact that you’re trying and doing new things despite any fear you may have about doing them.
I am reminded to be thankful and take life on when I read your blog.
Denise von Minden
I love your honesty, creativity, and your willingness to share your journey with us. I am continually inspired by you as a mother and fellow dabbler in crafty things. I also love how devoted you are to your family! I know that you have been feeling pressure to blog and put yourself out there but know that there are “friends” out here who are here whether you post once a week or more. That’s what makes this community of woman/mother/creative types bloggers so much fun to follow.
cathy stolze
You are a breath of fresh air.
You make me smile.
You are creative.
You are full of life and gratitude.
You love God.
You love your family.
You are real.
You inspire me to be the best me I can be.
You speak from your heart.
You share your struggles.
Even though I don’t know you personally,
You are my friend.
The best thing I like about your blog is YOU.
Just keep doin you, because You make a difference.
Do whatever you want.
Blog whenever you want.
Let it continue to happen when you have something to share. No pressure, No problem. My island friend says that, I love it. Just keep enjoying the moment and please keep sharing what you are learning about life. : )
Julie
I keep coming back because you make me think, and feel and write things down and try to keep living in the now upfront and center of my life.
They’re are not alot of people on the net, heck in real life, that openly share struggles and honestly, try to make a difference in the world.
The life list got me here because you are actually ‘doing’ it. But I keep coming back because I feel your spirit and it’s nice, and warm and normal and fun.
And the cupcakes are icing on it all
Julie
Lesley
I come to your blog every day because I love how you are living your life with purpose, and sharing that purpose via your blog. Simple. Plus I think you and I could be kindred spirits, so your blog reinforces that for me every time!! Just be you, that is more than enough!
BettyLou
I follow your blog via Google Reader. Rarely do your blog posts pile up because each one is precious and adds joy to my day. I love your honesty, authenticity and strong opinions. I don’t always agree with you, but you make me think, entertain me. I’m a vegan, I don’t eat cupcakes, but I read the story about them anyway. Thanks.
Jenny
I’m so glad you said that you don’t always agree with me. Because, I am often wrong and learning as I go. I read 3 blogs pretty religiously in which I disagree with them on most topics. But I love their willingness to learn and their uniqueness. I feel that at times I learn more from them than blogs that resemble mine. Thanks so much for leaving this comment. It really made me smile.
SHERY
YOUR BLOG IS….
WELL ROUNDED
INSPIRING
HONOST
I have a lot of struggles right now, you help me to not focus on the struggles but to learn from them. To appreciate how things were before the struggles and to take control of the things that will help me thru the struggles. if i had to give you a title you would be my “co-pilot”,
Janet White
Why do I come back? Because I see that God shines through the crafts and the cupcakes because it’s NOT about the crafts and the cupcakes. They – or any other thing that you passionately embrace – simply becomes the vehicle through which God shines. Truth often is wrapped in a paradox.
It’s not about what you do, but the reason behind what you do. Love can come wrapped in a cupcake or a list or the struggles you share.
Most people are scared to let God shine through them – I struggle with it as well. When one person gets brave, and becomes vulnerable and real, another one gets brave.
You inspire me to be brave,too.
Jenny
Janet – thank you for your comment. It was truly an answer to a very specific prayer I made right before this was posted. Jeff and I talked and prayed over your comment. I love the part about how God can use anything as a vehicle to spread a message. Thank you for that blessing.
Janet White
That makes me smile.
In all honesty, that comment felt more like a transcription than my own.
I think we all make it seem more complicated than it is.
Karen Moore
I love reading your blog because I wish we were friends … you’re the kind of person that makes a difference just by being YOU!
Michelle B
I came across your blog because of PL. And I love looking at your PL album. It gives me lots of ideas in inspiration for my own – so keep sharing!. Then I started reading more of your story – your history and I thought “Wow this lady has been through A LOT” and look how amazing she is!! I love your lists. I love your outlook on life. And your family and stories about them are cute too! I have had my blog since 2006!!! And it has changed throughout the years – certain things have come in and out of focus. My writing has changed… I think I have found my voice. It always has been a way for me to count the blessings in my life… to notice the little things. And while my blog readers has grown over the years – its not huge. And that is OK. I really blog for myself. And if people want to come along for the ride then that is great! But I am not trying to make a profession out of it – if that makes sense. Maybe set a goal to blog 2 or three times a week – instead of everyday. Maybe think less about who you are blogging for and what they want to hear – but instead blog from the heart. The best blogs, I think, are the ones written from a person who is being their authentic self. What do you want your blog to be about? What excites you in your life? And just because it is something today doesn’t mean it can’t change tomorrow. There is an ebb and flow with creativity – including blog. Maybe you just aren’t feeling it right now. And that is OK. Maybe ride it out and see where it takes you?
SusanB
I don’t remember how I found your blog but I return to it again and again because you always make me think: about being a better person, about how we all can have an impact on another person’s life, about making my life what I want it to be. I always appreciate your honesty and willingness to be so open and sharing about the good and the bad.
(And my 17 year old daughter is obsessed with cupcakes so that’s a definite benefit too!)
Lynn L
I love your honesty. I like reading about your LIST and the journey it is taking you on. Your willingness to just go and do! I need a little bit of that in me!! I was drawn to your blog by PL and definitely enjoy those posts too!! So glad I came across your blog.
Jodie
YOU! You are the reason I keep coming back. Whatever it is that you are doing it is funny, enlightening, heartfelt, and real. Crafting, baking, PL life list whatever you choose to continue with, I will return because it is YOU at the heart of it.
Christy
I’ve started reading a lot of blogs over the years, but I usually stop because they take up a lot of time. What has kept me coming back to yours almost a year later is…YOU! The first post I ever read was “Jenny Goes to Washington,” and I thought you were the most sincere and genuine person I had come across in a long time. Your zest for life, and your freedom to be silly and have a good time is refreshing and inspiring. I also think you are an amazing Mom…and I’ve learned a lot about parenting from you. So, I love reading about your life list items and the things you do with your kids (like the questions you ask them).
Kathleen
I believe the most successful blogs are the ones where the bloggers are writing for themselves. They write about what is truly important to them and what they enjoy. It’s obvious to me that you have gone through an amazingly, although scary, life-altering experience. The things that you find important enough to write about now are what came through after your experience as the most important. Do that, and you will continue to have readers.
Kathy
I discovered your blog in December when Jeff submitted your video of dancing in Washington D.C. to Beck Higgins. There was something magical in that video, it drew me back time and time again. I backtracked and discovered your Blog and haven’t missed a day since. There is something so real and relatable about you, your family, your life and your story. I get such positive inspiration from your blog, thank you for sharing it all! Please just continue to write whatever is important in the moment.
Laura K
Jenny, you and I strive to have our children understand that they are motivated to do what they want to do because, in the most simplest of terms, they want to do it. Not because its what others do, what they think they need to do to please others or to fit in, or they want to garner attention. Basing your blogging on this premise, you should blog because you want to, because you love to and because it make you happy. We all love hearing about “good choices” and watching the Meyersons grow up but we want to hear about you. My best guess is blogging was a way to get through a time in your life when you needed an outlet and now that time has past. This does not mean that we love you or want to hear from you less, if means that your need to vent has come and gone. We will always be here and listen but if its time, its time. YOU NEED TO BE HAPPY. And please, please, please, always remember HAPPINESS IS A JOURNEY AND NOT A DESTINATION.
Sharonne
To me it’s a real slice of life and I find that inspiring or funny or interesting or informative and sometimes I even get a bit jealous and I feel like I get to see a bit of you and I like that. What I see everyone here saying is that you give to them (and me) just by being you…so no matter what direction (if any) you choose I know it will be as interesting and as thoughtful and as authentic as your blog aleady is now.
Karen
It is a struggle to explain why we continue to return. It reminds me a bit of the Wizard of Oz. There’s no place like home. You continue to be the magnet of home. Your truth and frankness is overwhelming at times. However, you never seem to hold back. This novel you are creating is one I dream of having myself. You and your wonderful family (not without fears and faults) are a great example of what I hoped for myself. Your every way of expressing thoughts and ideas continues to keep me on my toes and know that, just as you said, the grass is NOT always greener on the other side. So, I ask myself why do I strive for more? At times, I am ashamed of my thoughts and I don’t understand them. And when I ask why, I realize that I seem to be reacting to what others are saying and doing. AND…then I remember some of the stories and events you have discussed. So, praises and compliments all around. Thank you for being who and what you are. I assure you I have grown and I know my daughter is appreciating this as well. As for criticism, personally unless your grammar is askew, I don’t see how criticising one for having feelings and not being afraid or ashamed to speak them is how we should be treating one another.
Dana
I found your blog while googling “365 project” which led me to PL and then that led me to the famous Washington DC video. I shared it with several friends & made a point to read your story and your blog.
Your life list is incredible. I love how you add things that are “out of this world”~things I would think about writing down on my own life list, but then I wouldn’t because I would hate to think that I couldn’t accomplish it, thus failing.
Your blog is very special to me & like others, I feel like I know you. It is inspiring, honest, real, and teaches me many life lessons.
Because of you, I have added a few things to my life list that I consider outrageous, because you showed me how to act bravely.
One of my ultimate goals/life list items, that I’ve had for a while, is to run up the “Rocky Steps” when I reach my weight loss goal. I liken this to you dancing in DC. You have given me courage to keep going. Thank you.
Julia
What Cathy Stolze said. And I <3 you, in the best blog following kind of way
Julia
I would like to hear a little more about that faith renewal. Cupcakes and celebrations are a wonderful part of life, not to be slighted in the least, but the deep, eternal things…like your story about the cancer patient that you encountered a few weeks ago…That is the kind of substance that blows me away…you are making a difference, no doubt, sweet Jenny. And we love knowing that, because you are so human and real, and dependant on Gods grace, we can make a difference too.
Jenny S
I understand the questioning and the trying to find the right path. I feel like I’m doing a lot of that right now myself. And that’s why I think your blog has been such a life changer for me. You give an honest representation of someone who is dealing with the same challenges most of us are facing. But you do it in a way that is approachable and fun. I personally really like the life list, and particularly your posts about how to make something happen.
Good luck with the exploration. I’m also trying to look at these kinds of times as opportunities that just haven’t presented themselves yet. God bless.
Carissa
I came for the cupcakes, I stayed for the inspiration. Your blog is well written and positive. I feel like if I’m having a bad day, all I need to do is come hang out here for a bit and your positive energy rubs off on me!
Jules
I think everyone has already said it all. For me, it was Project Life that brought me here. But your voice came through so strongly – someone who just wants to make the world a better place by helping her own family and friends, neighbours, strangers, and even just people across the ocean reading her blog – that I couldn’t stop reading your other posts. As someone who has had skin cancer myself, your perspective on life is something I can identify with. You always seemed to be you in your blog and that’s inspiring. That’s what I want to be too.
Theresa
I found your site through a Becky Higgins post, a video of you dancing with strangers
I’m hooked now! You are an incredible and inspiring woman. You have given me the nudge I need somedays to keep what’s important in perspective. Love your life list and you have inspired me to begin one of my own. Keep up the great posts, whatever you may decide. Blessings to you and your family.
Dana
I forgot to say this…your blog inspired me to write, as if I was a “real blogger”, a memory of my son winning a talent competition earlier this year. It included my feelings, honest and raw, physical and emotional; elated, nervous, anxious, grateful, wondering, excited, legs shaking with adrenaline, etc. All things that you showed me, through your blog, that I might want to remember later. I also asked him to write a summary of events from his perspective. I will cherish it for a lifetime…and you inspired it.
Christine
I found your site in December through Becky Higgins and have found myself checking back in to see how you’re doing. It’s hard to say why or how what someone else has to say about their own life has an impact on your own. From my perspective, I think that other people’s experiences are helpful in working through my own issues. Just in a sense of what worked or what didn’t work for other people, how they handled adversity, what they learned. So I’ve appreciated your authenticity and willingness to examine your life in all aspects – admit failures when they happen and celebrate triumphs as they occur. I would hate for you to change your voice because you think your audience wants something from you. I think as unhelpful as it may sound, it’s great when you share your process on finding direction, testing things out, and revising as you go.
Caroline
Hi Jenny. That has made me stop and think! Why do I come back – I think it is the posts that have encouragement, insight, wisdom and challenge. I have to admit that I tend to skip through the posts on cupcakes and stuff – but posts like the one today are the ones that catch me, make me stop and reflect. Thank you
Erin
After stumbling upon your blog on a particularly trying day, I found that the words I was reading were lifting me up. My bad day was NOTHING compared to the struggles you so honestly write about here so it was a huge wake up call that I needed to stop feeling sorry for myself and not let another second of this precious life pass me by. Your words make me smile, your list encourages and inspires, your little corner of the blog woel
Erin
Oops…your little corner of the blog world is encouraging and a breath of fresh air.
Megan Barnes
Love your Project Life! LOVE your cupcake posts!
Kept coming back because I love the tone of your words, and your optimism, and your little cute family! Have been sad to not get as much of that in the last few weeks.
Kathleen
Your site is one of three I read consistently. I love your honesty and your appreciation for life. I am inspired by your project life posts and your memory keeping. But mostly, I just love YOU. I read your blog because I am rooting for you – to be happy and healthy and as many of your dreams fulfilled as possible. I check in on your blog like I would a friend – just want to know how you’re doing
Lisa
Jenny, I only have three blogs in my tool bar and you are one. I love how real you are…you don’t sugar coat but you have a great sense of humor. You are humble and creative and the generosity of your spirit inspires me…don’t change a thing and I’ll keep coming back.
J3SS1C4
There are quite a few reasons I keep coming back to your blog. Firstly, your courage is inspiring. You’ve put yourself out there for the world to see by posting your life list, and this means that everyone has the chance to see if you do or don’t complete tasks.I think this is a good sign of your strength and resilance. You encourage people to document life, whether through blogging, project life, or little video clips of your family, and this is something super worthwhile. You always speak from the heart, whether your feeling good feelings or not so good ones, and it allows people to see your a normal person just like us, and that we can relate to you. You have a passion for being a better person, doing your best and pushing yourself to achieve more, and I find it encouraging and love having positive role models around. You enspire me to make the most of each day and to push myself to be better through your positivity. I love you blog, and will continue to come back regularly!
Michelle
I love your posts – they are so inspiring!
I especially love your approach to project life and the 100 questions which I have started with my own daughter – such a simple concept, but one that is SO rewarding!
Your posts are so uplifting!
Kirstyn
Someone sent me a link to your dancing video and from there I came to your blog where your life list really struck a cord and drew me in. Since then, it is the fact that you regularly make me smile, laugh and cry. You inspire me to try new things, to look at my life in a different way, to love my family and spend lots of time with them and, of course, to take photos and scrapbook.
Please keep sharing your thoughts, your family, your faith, your ideas and your photos with us all. You make a difference in our lives just by being you.
Gayletrini
The cupcakes brought me here but now I love all aspects of your blog. Your insight, your sharing of your life, the life list you do inspire. Maybe you don’t need to share every day if it is taking away from your family love time but don’t stop just stagger.((hugs))
gabby
i come because you are absolutely authentic. i love every bit of what you put into this blog because it is all done with so much heart. in fact, i don’t have you in my blog reader because i love to come and play catch up– you have a way of filling me back up again! xoxo.
Nicky from Canada
How walking your path is so where you were meant to me. We all have a path and it is how we chose to walk that path that truly defines us. Thanks for sharing. Very inspiring!!
Allie.Duckienz
It is because you are ALIVE. I feel your energy flowing through my computer screen. So many people live in a day to day daze and never truly live. To be honest, your life list scares the bejeebuz out of me. I have chronic fatigue and simply don’t have the energy to DO as much as you can but we all have our own journeys. I believe that mine is learning to be OK with being a human BEING and let go of my belief that I have to DO to be important. Reading your blog reminds me of that. That it is OK for everyone to have different beliefs, goals and dreams. That it is the best way to live life. Being authentic matters. I love that you are authentic and that you share your struggles with us. Thank you and God bless x
Jen
I found your blog via Becky Higgins but I am not a regular reader of Becky Higgins so I like to think I found your blog because I needed to read what you write. I am not fighting for my life via the result of any major illness. In fact if you knew me, you may even think I have it all together but I am struggling right now with some choices that need to be made. You help me remember that I am blessed and you make me want to share that with the people around me. You help me to remember that we all hit some bumps but overall life is worth celebrating.
I love that you are honest and I love your voice. I think if you lived near me, we could have lunch and be friends. Some of your jokes with your husband remind me of my relationship. I too am very lucky to have such a great man.
When I found your site, it was the cupcakes that first drew me in but then I read about overhearing the job interview and I knew I liked you instantly. I adore your honesty! You are a great writer and reading your blog feels like a chat with a friend. Your post on being bitter really hit home for me and I think of it often as I try to let go of my own bitterness. Sometimes you just read or hear things that become part of you. Things that make me a better person and when I struggle they recall to my mind like a really good pep talk from my high school coach. I don’t reply to blogs of people I don’t know but for you it feels different. I need you to know that you have made a difference in my life and we are complete strangers. Technology is so cool!
Sarah
This, exactly this…
And, I watch your dancing video when I need a lift. And you are HONEST about life, about your children, your family and your ups and downs.
Look forward to every post and am only sorry life has been too busy of late that I couldn’t tell you sooner.
x